so I loaded the GrIPD lib
pointed Pd-extended to it in my ~/pd-externals dir
opened the gripd exampled patch
clicked on [open ../gripd/examples/gripd.gpd]

and got the following message in the Pd window:

| |
| GrIPD: v0.1.1 |
| Graphical Interface for Pure Data |
| (C) Copyright 2003 Joseph A. Sarlo |
| GNU General Public License |

GrIPD: Using port 3490
GrIPD: Waiting for a connection...

I opened port 3490 in my firewall

so what am I doing wrong here?

thanks in advance!